How do you stop living in the past and improve personal growth?
Let me ask you… How to you stop driving your car looking in the Rear View Mirror and improve your driving skills?
This is although not as simple as car driving… but it’s not difficult too…
Let me ask you a couple of questions more…
- Why do we live in past? Normally
- What do you mean by personal growth?
The problem is we live in past because we believe past is responsible for whatever we are receiving in present… so whenever we face a situation we refer or blame or regret about the past…
But we don’t clear our vision of future, we don’t define what we mean by personal growth… even if we define we do not know where to start to move towards future… because again the references are from past…!
Are you getting what I want to say?
So, why is past so appealing? How to overcome past? Might be your first question…
Have you ever thought why Past is so influential? It’s because we either don’t accept the past events and forgive the people involved… so we keep blaming, situations and people in past for our present status… this is a programmed behaviour to save our skin.. to get rid of self-blame and advocate that whenever our life is because of our present-mindednesa, people have left no stone unturned to spoil your life…
And when, taking in account all the past we forgive all situations and people, we end up not forgiving ourselves, getting into deep self-blame, regret, guilt and resentment…
With these mindsets when we think about self growth… we don’t get any reference so we again end up in helplessness and hopelessness.
Hence we couldn’t even think how to go for Future oriented growth mindset…
How to break this cycle?
- Go for complete Acceptance and Forgiveness for self and others for anything and everything we have gone through in past… this makes sense because this is Universally True that there is no way we can change whatever has taken place in past…
- Once you accept and forgive, we are not clinging to past and we understand, if my present life is a result of past… if I want growth in future, i have to focus on my activities in the present…
- Now you ask yourself what will be your life if you have personal growth? How are you going to maximise it?
- See what life you want in future, ask yourself… what will I be doing if I want this future… with the instincts you get start planning your future… create a goal… create steps to achieve and start taking actions…
This might be a possible way how you can get answer to your question…
Hope this helps.